Religion is a hard task master, and utterly brutal if you are not “straight” (adhere to the heterosexual norm).
For those of us who turned to religion for answers, what exactly did that religion do?
Did it make you feel unconditionally loved and accepted just the way you are, or did it have conditions attached?
Did it claim you were unacceptable to God until you repented of your sexual “identity” and followed God’s blueprint for life?
How about after you finally came to terms with the handful of scriptures that supposedly denounce same sex relationships – did you begin to question what other doctrines and interpretations we might have wrong?
If so, you aren’t alone. In fact most LGBT people who have come to this point begin to have a crisis of faith. The problem is, however, the amount of effort and commitment we put into sorting out how to exist as a gay christian usually puts a stop to any further “unravelling”. We’ve already “come out” sexually and suffered at the hands of christianity in the process. To question even more of the christian doctrines and assumptions would bring further isolation and rejection. And that’s something many aren’t willing to experience. After all, at least we can now find some comfort in our basic faith and find other christians who have successfully come out.
Most of us are “damaged goods” after our ordeal, and want the comfort religion offers – a safe haven where we can rest.
But what if there is something better?
What if Christianity, instead of being the only source of love and acceptance by God is really nothing more than a set of comparatively small and exclusive dogmas that, rather than unite us in love, actually divide humanity and destroy the very foundations of love?
What if the love and acceptance outside of that religious paradigm is bigger than we ever imagined?
What if we really did get it that wrong?