I talk to a lot of people about being gay, especially christians. Once you cut through all the religious doctrinal rubbish you usually end up with “the yuck factor”.
This is the dreaded anal sex – yes, in the end this is what it comes down to for far too many people. There’s even a new group that call themselves “g0ys“, who despite some good intentions, suffer from ignorance of the full nature of sexuality and gender, and engage in active bigotry towards LGBT people, and are pro homosexuality but anti anal sex as well as anything that suggests the slightest hint of breaking out of gender stereotyping.
But what IS the deal here? The most recent U.S. data from a national representative sample comes from the 2002 National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG), which was conducted on over 12,000 men and women aged 15 to 44. Results show that 34 percent of men and 30 percent of women reported engaging in anal sex at least once *. This is certainly an eyebrow raiser because we aren’t talking about gay people here!
Other stats say around 90% of gay men practice it, some less, but generally at least 80%. Other stats on straight women say about 11 to 15% regularly practice anal sex. Whatever the figures, it’s not just a small minority.
Is it safe? Is it yuckie? Is it pleasurable? Why do we even care?
As with ANY form of sexual contact it has it’s risks. There are links to anal cancer etc, but what most people don’t realise is that the research assumes that all gay guys engage in rough, unprotected sex every night of the week with a different partner – something that far too many accept as a stereotype. The truth is that it’s as safe as you make it. If you clean yourself first, all good. Clean up after, all good – basic stuff really.
Yuckie? I can see why people think that because that’s the hole where the crap comes out. Of course the semen comes out of the whole where the urine comes out, but we don’t think about that. Again, it’s all a matter of what we’ve been conditioned to thin rather than any reality.
Pleasurable? Most guys find it great, not all, but most. This is because it directly stimulates the prostate gland. It gets a nice stimulating massage during the whole process and it can be pretty good. Some guys don’t like it and that’s fine. No one is forcing anyone else to like it (well, they shouldn’t). Many women like it as well. It’s just one of those sexual experiences that you either like or don’t.
Do we even care? This is the crunch! Why the hell do we care what other people do in their bedrooms? How does it affect YOU? If your gay neighbours are having anal sex, exactly how does that affect your life? If you are spouting religious reasons, really, what do we care what your interpretations of some ancient tribal writings say? I know it’s very important to many people, but if that’s your views, then you are actively involved in killing people. Religious views are the primary cause of mental illness that directly causes chronic depression and suicide – at alarming rates.
So if your opinions come down to gay people having anal sex, perhaps you should give it a go yourself!