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The Hero's Journey

I'd like to present a guest post by David Gormong. This is very profound and an excellent allegory.   THE HERO'S JOURNEY The heroes of myth and legend have so much to teach us gay men. We too are called to the hero’s journey. Consider…

"Nice" Christians

It's always bugged me. Even when I was a pentecostal bible basher. "Nice" Christians.  You know the type... Always smiling, always have an encouraging "word" for you, and ignoring everything "bad" in the world and only trying to think…

Love yourself!

A wonderful friend (Ru Gof) posted this pic today, which reminded me that this is the greatest and most powerful truth we can embrace. We may THINK we feel love for others - we may become overwhelmed by emotion for others and feel a huge…

The Psychological Legacy

If you've read my book "It's Life Jim..." you'll be familiar with how my mental state was affected by my life of battling sexuality with religion and the constant fight with depression and suicide ideation. When my wife died it all came to…

The Missing Chapter

This is probably the most difficult thing I’ll ever share about my life. In my book “It’s Life Jim...” I shared the complexities of my life with as much honesty, openness and integrity as I could – except for the 22 years of marriage.…

Is love a discipline?

One christian tenet that is commonly touted is the whole idea of love being a discipline - something we have to work on - to actively "deny ourselves" and exercise Godly love despite our feelings. I always battled with this. I could never…

LGBT vs The Church

I engage with Christians every day who wrestle with scripture, trying to justify being LGBT with their faith. I'm constantly confronted by traditional and fundamentalist Christians as well as many from the "grace" movements, convinced that…

Masculine vs feminine

One of the most confusing and misunderstood areas about sexuality and gender are the core concepts of masculinity and femininity. Even amongst LGBT people there is often confusion! The general stereotype says you are either an effeminate…

I was a chronic liar!

Lying. We hate liars. We are taught from day one that its absolutely wrong to lie, and when we catch people lying it destroys trust and credibility. But we all tell little lies every so often. We twist the truth a little, tell "white lies",…

20 Questions for “Ex-gay” Ministry Leaders

20 Questions for “Ex-gay” Ministry Leaders (Quoted from Ambassadors and Bridge Builders International (ABBI) by Anthony Venn-Brown) 1. Do you know of anyone who was completely gay (not a bisexual) who has become completely…