Come Out!

Silent Gays tagline line is "coming out of religion", so I thought I might expand on this a little. Obviously it's a double reference to coming out as LGBT and coming out of religion - but why the two together? Surely you can still be gay…

The Missing Chapter

This is probably the most difficult thing I’ll ever share about my life. In my book “It’s Life Jim...” I shared the complexities of my life with as much honesty, openness and integrity as I could – except for the 22 years of marriage.…

Lets talk about anal sex

I talk to a lot of people about being gay, especially christians. Once you cut through all the religious doctrinal rubbish you usually end up with "the yuck factor". This is the dreaded anal sex - yes, in the end this is what it comes down…

Sex and Religion

I've joined forces with Recovering from Religion! These guys are an amazing team of dedicated volunteers who provide resources for anyone who has "left the fold" or are seriously questioning their belief system. They provide heaps of resources,…

Is love a discipline?

One christian tenet that is commonly touted is the whole idea of love being a discipline - something we have to work on - to actively "deny ourselves" and exercise Godly love despite our feelings. I always battled with this. I could never…

LGBT vs The Church

I engage with Christians every day who wrestle with scripture, trying to justify being LGBT with their faith. I'm constantly confronted by traditional and fundamentalist Christians as well as many from the "grace" movements, convinced that…

The Sissy-boy Experiment

In 1970, a five-year-old boy named Kirk Murphy was subjected to an ex-gay experiment... This is a four part documentary (about 30 min total). We still face the same toxic mentality today. All ex-gay therapy is extremely damaging, to the point…

What Happens When Gay People Are Told That Homosexuality Is A Sin?

"Conservative Christians have long argued that their condemnations of homosexuality are couched in love, complete with the catchy slogan, “love the sinner, hate the sin.” But that message — that homosexuality is a sin — is harmful in…

Masculine vs feminine

One of the most confusing and misunderstood areas about sexuality and gender are the core concepts of masculinity and femininity. Even amongst LGBT people there is often confusion! The general stereotype says you are either an effeminate…

Orlando

I've waited a couple of days to ponder over the Orlando shooting and all the implications. There has been an incredible outpouring of love and strength from the LGBT community and the world at large. Probably not much more I could add to…