Entries by silentgays

The Hero’s Journey

I’d like to present a guest post by David Gormong. This is very profound and an excellent allegory.   THE HERO’S JOURNEY The heroes of myth and legend have so much to teach us gay men. We too are called to the hero’s journey. Consider the story of Hercules, for instance. The ancient Greeks loved […]

“Nice” Christians

It’s always bugged me. Even when I was a pentecostal bible basher. “Nice” Christians.  You know the type… Always smiling, always have an encouraging “word” for you, and ignoring everything “bad” in the world and only trying to think “good” thoughts. Plastic, is one word that comes to mind, or shallow. They are out there […]

#WSPD – LGBT suicide

In my last blog I talked briefly about suicide. Here’s an excellent follow up from Anthony Venn-Brown. I can’t begin to stress how serious this problem is! It’s why I’m here. I fought with suicide ideation constantly my entire life for these exact reasons. I survived. I lost my faith as a result, but I […]


Over the last few years, as I’ve developed the Silent Gays project, I’ve observed something very disturbing. People put forward many ideas about why young guys, in particular, commit suicide. This article is powerful and points to one of the major issues concerning young guys inability to talk about themselves and share what’s going on […]

Love yourself!

A wonderful friend (Ru Gof) posted this pic today, which reminded me that this is the greatest and most powerful truth we can embrace. We may THINK we feel love for others – we may become overwhelmed by emotion for others and feel a huge heart response to them. We may genuinely put others first […]

My Legacy

Many people think that I’m “out and proud”, and that my days of living in hidden trauma, depression and self loathing are long gone. I guess I do give that impression because I’m a passionate advocate for helping people untangle the mess of religion that causes untold damage to millions (and not just LGBT people). […]

New levels of support!

We are pleased to announce the addition of a new support group to Silent Gays. We now have two Facebook “secret” groups – SG1 and SG2 to cover the level of support you may need. SG1 (our original support group) is a group for people to share their hearts and stories, to rant and rave and find […]

The Psychological Legacy

If you’ve read my book “It’s Life Jim…” you’ll be familiar with how my mental state was affected by my life of battling sexuality with religion and the constant fight with depression and suicide ideation. When my wife died it all came to a head and I had a “meltdown” or whatever you want to […]

It’s Life Jim… – New Edition

It’s finally here!  This new edition has a couple of extra chapters and various tweaks. I have felt for some time that I needed to “finish the story”. Although the 1st Edition covered all the basics, there were a couple of things that I was never brave enough to include. Grab a copy and write […]